Things That Grind My Gear
Here's something that really grinds my gears. I just tried to explain it but I cant get the words out, so I'll present it with a few examples.
1.Yossi Shimi and Baruch are sitting around saying loshon hara. Then Yossi says something about Shimi's friend, and Shimi says, stop saying Loshon hara.
2.Yossi is sleeping in a dorm and wakes up because Shimi and Baruch are fighting outside his room. Yossi goes out of his room and yells about how its gezel shaina (stealing sleep) to wake people.
3. Yossi goes to Eilat and his Rabbi finds out about it. His Rabbi tells him that there isn't any Mehadrin food in eilat. Yossi responds that there is, and lists a few restaurants. His Rabbi then responds that you cant say a bracha there because of all the pritzut(lewdness).
In example 1, Shimi's issue isnt Loshon Hara, its that theyre talking about his friend. He didnt have a problem with Loshon hara a second before that. Example 2, if Yossi really cared so much, he would have told them not to fight. His issue isnt that they are stealing, its that they woke him up. Example 3, the Rabbi doesnt like that Yossi went to Eilat. It has nothing to do with mehadrin or brachot, since even if the Rabbi knew there was a mehadrin place in Eilat that required tzniut clothing to enter, he still wouldnt want yossi going there.
All these cases are people using religion as an excuse instead of saying the truth. Which is a paradox, since if they were so religious they wouldnt be lying. If something bothers you, either speak up or don't, but dont use religion as a crutch to avoid your real issues.
1.Yossi Shimi and Baruch are sitting around saying loshon hara. Then Yossi says something about Shimi's friend, and Shimi says, stop saying Loshon hara.
2.Yossi is sleeping in a dorm and wakes up because Shimi and Baruch are fighting outside his room. Yossi goes out of his room and yells about how its gezel shaina (stealing sleep) to wake people.
3. Yossi goes to Eilat and his Rabbi finds out about it. His Rabbi tells him that there isn't any Mehadrin food in eilat. Yossi responds that there is, and lists a few restaurants. His Rabbi then responds that you cant say a bracha there because of all the pritzut(lewdness).
In example 1, Shimi's issue isnt Loshon Hara, its that theyre talking about his friend. He didnt have a problem with Loshon hara a second before that. Example 2, if Yossi really cared so much, he would have told them not to fight. His issue isnt that they are stealing, its that they woke him up. Example 3, the Rabbi doesnt like that Yossi went to Eilat. It has nothing to do with mehadrin or brachot, since even if the Rabbi knew there was a mehadrin place in Eilat that required tzniut clothing to enter, he still wouldnt want yossi going there.
All these cases are people using religion as an excuse instead of saying the truth. Which is a paradox, since if they were so religious they wouldnt be lying. If something bothers you, either speak up or don't, but dont use religion as a crutch to avoid your real issues.
posted by stillruleall at 1:27 PM
4 Comments:
I don't get your issue with number 2. Yossi couldn't give a crap if they are fighting. Just let them fight somewhere else. But if he isn't involved in teh fight, why should he suffer. Thats why God created gezel shaina
Why do these three examples bother you so much? Actually, I know the answer to the Eilat one.
The examples were the best I could come up with offhand. The point is people not wanting to do something for a personal reason and using religion as an excuse. My issue with number 2 is that if he really cared about gezel shaina, then he doesnt care that they woke him up, he cares that they did an avaira. And if all that bothers him is his friend's doing this avaira, then the fighting should bother him too. Hid real issue is that they woke him, but instead of yelling at them for waking him, he throws religion in.
And the Eilat one was a true story from like 4 years ago that I don't think I'm ever going to get over.
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